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Destroying Our Masks

11/9/2019

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Removing Our Masks by Elizabeth Galen, Ph.D.A flower essence blend I created which is entitled, "I deserve to exist."
As I’ve mentioned before, the best healers are those who have been wounded and who have worked to heal their past. These healers continue to work on healing on deeper levels throughout their lives as they grow as individuals. If you find a healer who claims to be perfect and to have resolved all their issues, run in the opposite direction. They are deluded. We’re all human, and we’re all in need of healing our entire lives. Almost none of us reach enlightenment on this plane of existence. 

I am continuing my own healing because I practice what I preach to my clients. Lately, I have been working on some very core issues in my life. Like many people, I had a miserable childhood which included a lot of abuse (physical, emotional and sexual) and neglect. I was very different than many of my peers as a child, and as a result, I endured bullying, especially in the late grade school years. When I look back on my childhood, it’s not with fondness. It’s with painful memories and gratitude that I somehow managed to survive. 

Removing Our Masks by Elizabeth Galen, Ph.D.A colorful ceramic, bead, and decorative straw mask I created when I was 8 years old
Recently, a new issue surfaced during therapy. I’ve got a list of core issues which I have been working on healing in different ways over the years. However, as we approached one of my core issues, a new underlying issue suddenly popped its malicious head out of the woodwork for me to heal. Both my therapist and I were taken back by its appearance, yet it made sense to us in light of my other issues. 

When I came home from that therapy session, I created a flower essence blend for myself just as I do for my clients by using my intuitive guidance and my stock of 600+ flower essences. I then labeled the blend, “I Deserve to Exist.” I’ve learned that The Universe doesn’t observe subtlety when it comes to healing. We need to clearly state exactly what it is we’re working on and what we want to achieve.

​I had known previously that I was an unplanned and undesired pregnancy. Even though I was born in the post-Roe v. Wade era, my somewhat Catholic mother chose to continue the pregnancy. However, on top of not wanting a child, she also did not want a girl. The firstborn child was supposed to be a male, one who could carry on the family name. I grew up knowing that I was not wanted nor was I the right sex. On a subconscious level, I quickly learned that others fundamentally did not want me to exist.

Removing Our Masks by Elizabeth Galen, Ph.D.A painted plaster mask I made as a child
Throughout my childhood, many people tried to make me disappear. They put masks on me, trying to transform me into the kind of person they felt I should be. In order to survive as a child, I conformed as best I could to their demands. At the time, I assumed their judgments meant I was imperfect or wrong. I tried to be perfect. As a teen, I started realizing I wasn’t being true to myself. As an adult, I've had to shed all of those prior expectations in order to find my true self. In retrospect, I have learned that others were not allowing me to be me because of their own emotional issues, not my imperfections.

Lately as I have been clearing out emotional baggage, I’ve simultaneously been clearing out physical baggage, too. I’ve been purging many of my childhood items that I still had packed away in boxes by giving them away on my local Buy Nothing Project list. I’ve experienced great joy in giving these items to others who can enjoy them. Some are getting to reclaim items identical to those which brought them happiness in their childhoods. Others are passing them on to children who can happily play with the toys rather than the toys sitting unused in boxes. 

Removing Our Masks by Elizabeth Galen, Ph.D.My childhood tea set in mint condition still in the original box
When messaging with one list member who took my childhood tea set for her child, she mentioned the great condition the set was in. I told her it didn’t feel safe for me as a child to cause any damage to my toys. She asked if I would get healing from destroying the tea set rather than giving it to her child. I was certain that wasn’t what was best for me or the tea set. However, she instigated a powerful idea for me.
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In one of the boxes, I knew there were two masks. One was from a class I took at 
Colorado College the summer before third grade when I was 8. My second grade teacher had nominated me for the class, and I remember it being a big deal that I got to take it. I vividly remember creating this large ceramic mask which had broken off in one place over the years. As I messaged with the neighbor whom I gave my tea set to, I realized that I needed to smash that mask. I literally needed to get rid of the masks of my childhood. I needed to be completely free of what others put on me in the past.

Removing Our Masks by Elizabeth Galen, Ph.D.The smashed remains of a colorful mask I created as a child
This morning I had a healing session with one of my practitioners who uses NET. Unprompted by me, she used the term “mask” with me, and I began to laugh. I told her that my afternoon plans included smashing a mask I had created as a child; I had set the mask in my garage before I left home for the appointment. My healer got goosebumps as we talked about it.
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So when I got home, I smashed that mask. I was utterly surprised how easy it was to break the ceramic with a hammer; it was like using a knife on warm butter. Symbolically, that’s probably true of many of our masks. While they appear to be sturdy and strong, hiding us from the world, the reality is that once we choose to remove them and be ourselves, they crumble quickly. ​

​The only piece of the mask that refused to smash was the nose. When I am doing psychic readings for clients, I see noses symbolically to represent wisdom. To me, that was a reminder to keep the wisdom of my childhood. I learned a lot through the pain I endured, plus I do have some happy memories. Those are the things that I should retain. The rest can be broken and discarded.

Removing Our Masks by Elizabeth Galen, Ph.D.The solid nose with only a small chip out of it surrounded by the remains of the rest of a childhood ceramic mask
I also had a plaster mask in the box which was made by putting plaster wrappings over my face; I am not sure if I made it in that same class or not. Regardless, I took a pair of scissors and quickly cut it to shreds. I no longer want to hide behind masks. I no longer am willing to let others try to make me disappear. I deserve to exist in this world in all of my weird and wonderful glory. I do not need to hide behind a mask to be me.

​©2019 Elizabeth Galen, Ph.D., Green Heart Guidance, LLC

Removing Our Masks by Elizabeth Galen, Ph.D.
The cut up remains of a plaster mask I made as a child
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