One of the quickest turnoffs on a dating website is encountering a highly negative profile. A guy who starts off his profile by saying, “I don’t date women who have blond hair. I don't like women who are tall. Fat women aren’t healthy, and I don’t like them. Don’t live with your mother either if you message me,” is presenting a very negative vibration to prospective women. Men aren’t alone in this negativity; many women do it, too. While most of us do have preferences in what we are looking for in a potential partner, this negative presentation of ideals is likely to drive most candidates away.
There are many who believe that what we think is what we manifest. If that is true, then it’s best to keep our thoughts as positive as possible. Even if it’s not true, the expression of positive thoughts can shift our personal views of life by placing an emphasis on what is right rather than what is wrong. It’s seeing the glass as half full rather than half empty.
An easy example is stating, “I don’t like broccoli.” Instead, one could state, “I really prefer spinach to broccoli.” It gives even more information and keeps the sentiment in a positive light. Rather than saying, “I hate bicycling,” you could suggest, “How about we consider canoeing instead?”
Another school of thought argues that the Universe doesn’t hear the word “no” or “not.” So if you put on your dating profile, “I don’t want to be with anyone who has kids,” you’ll actually end up attracting a lot of people who have children. Instead, try phrasing your request in a more positive light and without negatives: “I’d prefer to date people who are childless.” Instead of saying, “I don’t like conservatives,” you can state, “I find people with a liberal mindset incredibly attractive.”
While these seem like little things, all the little things add up when trying to make one’s life experience more positive. This is something that is free to do, and it takes very little effort to do once you get in the swing of things.
© 2014 Green Heart Guidance
There are many who believe that what we think is what we manifest. If that is true, then it’s best to keep our thoughts as positive as possible. Even if it’s not true, the expression of positive thoughts can shift our personal views of life by placing an emphasis on what is right rather than what is wrong. It’s seeing the glass as half full rather than half empty.
An easy example is stating, “I don’t like broccoli.” Instead, one could state, “I really prefer spinach to broccoli.” It gives even more information and keeps the sentiment in a positive light. Rather than saying, “I hate bicycling,” you could suggest, “How about we consider canoeing instead?”
Another school of thought argues that the Universe doesn’t hear the word “no” or “not.” So if you put on your dating profile, “I don’t want to be with anyone who has kids,” you’ll actually end up attracting a lot of people who have children. Instead, try phrasing your request in a more positive light and without negatives: “I’d prefer to date people who are childless.” Instead of saying, “I don’t like conservatives,” you can state, “I find people with a liberal mindset incredibly attractive.”
While these seem like little things, all the little things add up when trying to make one’s life experience more positive. This is something that is free to do, and it takes very little effort to do once you get in the swing of things.
© 2014 Green Heart Guidance
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