In my personal belief system, we continue repeating patterns until we learn the life lesson we need to learn. I believe we all came to this planet with specific goals set before us, although I don’t know if we are aware of those goals or not. Regardless, challenges will continue to present themselves in our lives until we master the higher concept behind them. Once we’ve learned that lesson, then we are free to move on to the next. Of course, that’s an oversimplified description of it all as we are often learning many lessons at once. Because I believe in reincarnation, I also believe that lessons can carry over from past lives if they weren’t completed in previous journeys.
In my own life, especially in earlier years, there was a repeating pattern of narcissists playing prominent roles. For me, once I was old enough to manage my own decisions in life, the challenge was to figure out why I kept having narcissists appear in my life. The first question anyone should ask themselves when examining a repeating pattern is, “Are they serving as mirrors of my own behavior?” For me, narcissism is not a personal issue. My instinct is to think of others and to care about their health and safety and feelings. I’m empathic and that dominates my being. So for me, narcissism is not something I struggle with on a personal level.
Then why so many narcissists in my world? As I worked through my personal and spiritual issues, I finally was able to realize that I drew those types of people to me because I had low self-worth. I believed that I didn’t deserve someone who would love me fully for who I am. So instead, I accepted the abuse and neglect that narcissists would force on me. As a child, I had no power in my life to stop the behaviors of those around me, but as an adult, I do. I am able to walk out of a relationship when I am being used or mistreated or even abused.
Now that I’ve recognized the pattern, I am able to stear clear of the manipulation of narcissists once they come into my life. I may have to work with them, yet I keep my physical and emotional distance. I no longer let their distorted views damage my perception. I stay strong, believing in the amazing person I am.
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